Womb Connection
Centering the womb and living a womb-led life
About a month ago I wrote a piece about the epidemic of womb disconnection. . . and it is time to write about the opposite end of that, which is what it looks and feels like to live life deeply connected to your womb, and why living that type of life is so important.
Let’s start with the single most important part of this discussion: the womb as the seat of feminine life force.
The womb is the central sun for every woman. The womb is the seat of our power, the portal to our creative ideas and impulses that we are on this earth to share.
The womb is so much more than a set of organs that live in our belly and pelvis. She is a spiritual portal, the most direct connection that we have to the universe, or God or source (whatever word you prefer). When we live a life disconnected from the womb, physically and spiritually, we are energetically castrated from an innate part of ourselves, from a part of our soul expression on this earth.
Therefore, the first and most important way that we can live a womb-led life is by cultivating a strong relationship with the physical and energetic aspects of the womb space, learning to listen to our womb-based intuition, and connecting to our internal central sun.
Okay, great, that’s wonderful to read, but what does it really look like to live a life where you’re connected to the physical and spiritual gifts of the womb? Let’s go deeper! A womb-led life can look like:
Understanding your body on a deeper level. For example, a painful period is not just an annoyance — you can understand it as a message, a way that your womb is communicating with you about something she needs from you.
Knowing and honoring your monthly hormonal cycle and fluctuations, so that you can meet your body where it’s at each day, instead of forcing a rhythm that may not be natural for you.
Understanding that your intuition is not found in the third eye or crown chakra, but instead is found within your womb, your pelvis, your bones. You probably will receive insight from your higher chakras, but the actual deep intuitive knowing of what to do with that insight comes from deeper within you, from your womb.
Learning to surrender to and accept the descent as part of the life cycle of the feminine. The feminine is meant to descend into her depths for her embodiment. Learning to befriend your depths and the descent process is an integral part of creating a life connected to your womb.
Turning on your discernment when it comes to the people you have in your life. The womb will always let us know when a person is not healthy for us, but it’s up to us to listen to her wisdom. The more you build a relationship with your womb, the strong that discernment will get.
Understanding the physiological messages from your womb. Building a womb connection will teach you to be able to track and understand when you are fertile and ovulating (aka when you’re at your creative peak), vs when you need to carve out time alone to rest and replenish (like around your period). Letting your womb have unmedicated normal hormonal cycles, and learning to speak the language of your cycles, will support you in knowing when to push, create, be social, and when to perhaps take more time for yourself in solitude. The feminine needs external and internal time each month, and one of the best ways to ensure you get that is to pay attention to your cycle.
Learning to create from the guidance of your womb. Whatever you are creating — be it art, a business, a relationship, nurturing children, or anything else — we are meant to create and nurture and be led by our wombs. This is one of the greatest gifts of a womb-led life.
Sometimes it helps to hear direct stories from others to understand the benefits of living a womb-led life. So let me tell you a bit about how my life has changed since I started centering my womb and listening to her wisdom.
My periods have become way less painful, less heavy, and a time of the month I enjoy.
Some months I have slightly more painful periods, but that pain lasts for one to two hours if it happens, and then it’s gone. If or when my period is painful, I expect it, because this only happens when I’ve had a very energetically taxing month and I know my period is going to be a big release of the energy from the month. This is in contrast to periods that used to have me missing school and commitments, curled up in pain, unable to function without painkillers, and being considered a likely candidate for endometriosis.My discernment around the people in my life is well honed. When I really started listening to my womb, I stopped attracting men who were not an energetic match for me, and I eventually met my partner. My connection with my womb has majorly served our relationship and growth together.
I have a deep respect for my yoni and I do not use products that could disrupt her natural balance. I yoni steam, take healing baths to support my vulva health, do yoni massage, use clean period products, and I haven’t used a tampon in close to a decade (because no tampon is made of “clean” enough ingredients to be good for the vagina, and once I stopped using them I really noticed a difference).
In the same vein, I have a partner who respects my yoni just as much. He has learned my cycle and what my yoni needs to be as healthy and balanced as possible and supports me where he can. There is no hiding of my blood or anything going on with my womb, it’s all out in the open and celebrated.
Every now and then I like to collect womb blood to paint with, a practice that has allowed me to come into reverent relationship with my blood.
I have a loving connection to my sexuality and have healed major sexual trauma, allowing more flow, ease, and sensuality into my life.
I know my womb’s “yes” and “no” very clearly and if womb says no, I don’t question her.
My spiritual work is completely womb led. I do not search for more spiritual connection via my upper chakras, instead I descend into my womb and connect to the universe from there. My relationship with spirit has changed and deepened since I allowed womb to lead. There is no need to search outside of myself for what already exists within.
I feel innately connected to the feminine energy within me. I used to spend so much time working to balance my masculine and feminine energy, and now I spend hardly any time on that. Because I don’t need to — when I’m centering my womb and her intuition in my life, I don’t need to consciously balance my masculine vs feminine energy. That balance happens via the way I live.
I support women in their journeys to reconnect with their womb, and I have found time and time again that when we come home to the womb, it shifts the way we show up in life. Centering the womb is not always easy in today’s world. Women are socialized to live more like men, hustling in 40 hour work weeks, burning the candle at both ends, like we have a 24 hour hormonal cycle instead of a 28(ish) day one. Just because it may not be easy at first to live a womb centered life doesn’t mean it’s not worth it. You have to find ways to make womb-centered living work for you and for the life you want and need to live. It is possible to center your womb, no matter what your life looks like.
Here are some examples of easy ways to start honoring your womb and living a life where you center her needs:
Swap out all period products for natural, organic pads or period panties. Stop using tampons, stop using commercial pads full of crap, even consider not using menstrual cups more than absolutely necessary (cups create suction and pull around the cervix which is not healthy long term either. I recommend using cups when needed, like during a workout for example, and using organic pads otherwise). This is a relatively easy first step to make, to honor your womb and your bleed.
If you’re using any kind of hormonal or invasive birth control, consider working towards stopping it. Learn about the fertility awareness method and start studying up on how to accurately track your cycle and understand your ovulation signs and when you’re in your fertile window. It takes some time and education to take charge of your fertility without birth control, but it’s absolutely doable.
Start holding your lower belly/womb once a day and directing your breath into your womb. Imagine that you are filling your womb with breath and attention, and telling womb that you are listening to her. Practice this once a day and start to notice what your womb feels like and what messages she may have for you.
Learn about your anatomy. Many women don’t fully understand the anatomy of vulva, vagina, and uterus, uterine tubes, ovaries. Learn about your reproductive anatomy, because it’s an important part of your body, and knowledge is empowering!
Take charge of your pleasure. Pleasure is a gateway into womb work, and it’s one of the most common gateways I see most women take. Sexuality is an integral part of our connection to womb, and it is so important for every woman to be the expert in her own pleasure. Get to know your body and explore what brings you pleasure. This will deepen your connection to your body and womb.
In a similar vein, get very discerning about who you allow to engage with you sexually. We exchange energy with sexual partners so it benefits us to be very aware of who we are allowing into our energetic field.
Hopefully you have some ideas now about ways you can start centering your womb a bit more in your daily life. Try to add just one habit at a time, building up your womb relationship bit by bit. The womb should be a cherished part of your body and life, not a nuisance or pain.
If you desire support or community, check out my Womb Alchemy School membership, where we meet once a week to do womb work together, and you have access to a library of womb resources to work with!
Thoughts or questions? Leave a comment below!