Defining Success

Sick of the online biz narrative that massive wealth and fame are success? Read this for another perspective.

In case you need to hear it: your mission is deeply valid even if you don’t desire huge amounts of visibility and wealth. Your spiritual offering to the world, your soul-led business, whatever it is that you do, is valid no matter your desires.

And in case you need to hear it: if you do desire big wealth and visibility, this post is not meant to invalidate you.

If you read through, perhaps use this post as a tool to reflect on if you want wealth and visibility because it’s what you believe signifies success, or because it’s what is the truest measure of success for you.

Here’s a truth you may need to hear (and take it as a big permission slip to throw away old beliefs if it feels resonant):
It is absolutely fine to not want to make your business your everything. To not aspire to become super wealthy. There’s a narrative that has become so common in the online, soul-led or spiritual business world that you need to want these things. And I’m here to remind you that it’s fine if you don’t. In fact, in my opinion, that narrative has gotten out of hand.

I don’t want these things and I have clients who don’t either. It’s okay to just want to help the people you’re meant to help and be fulfilled by sharing your work with whoever wants to receive it, regardless of it you make it big-big-big or become a household name or not.

This was so fucking important for me to realize earlier this year - like I had a full on career death/breakdown figuring this out because I felt like I was doing it all wrong if I didn’t desire what online biz gurus claim we all want.

I was feeling like a failure because I didn’t want these things I was being told I should want through messaging or marketing.

I want to make enough money to have a good life, but I don’t care about being big or obscenely wealthy. It just doesn’t seem important to me at all.

I’d rather just focus on my mission and share my soul work with those who want it.

That’s when I have the most success anyway.

And it is totally fine if it is important to you to have a massive multi-however-many-illion-dollar corporation.

Something that was important for me to consider though was this:

Societal norms say that money is success. In fact, anything that isn’t a big money maker is generally seen as less-than by our society norms. On the other hand, spiritual biz owners say they’re helping bring in a new paradigm. But, many of them indicate via their marketing and branding that money is still the main success parameter. Which leads to the question: if money is still the number one success point, which is what I observe a lot, then are we really changing anything in the general world of online spiritual/soul-led business?

I’m not going to give a yes or no answer to that, but I invite you to mull it over.

All this to say: if massive wealth is not success for you, you don’t need to make yourself contort to try to get it. It’s super fine to not want that.

And by the way, this is not about “you shouldn’t make money from your healing work” or “be a starving artist” or anything like that.

We’re not playing into that old paradigm here. If you desire to make a living sharing your soul work with others, being a healer or coach, or mentor, then do that (ethically and in integrity always).

I’m just saying you can want that without wanting to contort and play the “big money game.”

I am not a saint. I want money. I need money. I charge money for my services. But my success point is not being famous or rich.

I also know that I am super fucking powerful. My work is bad-ass and changes my clients’ lives.

I have spent years, blood, sweat, tears, and lots of money invested into my own training, to be able to offer out-of-this-world potent medicine.

My work is amazing and I know that.

And all I care about is making sure that the souls I am meant to work with can find me.

So that I can help them tap into their own bad-ass potent medicine.

To claim their healing and resource their inner power.

I don’t need to be the biggest name on the block, I don’t need to be known around the world (and why would I want to be? Because my hot take/opinion is that I don’t resonate with or like any of the “big name spiritual leaders” out there).

I literally don’t want or need anything besides to do my work and to help people and change the world in that way. I don’t aspire to have my success be about how much money I’m making (as long as I can live a happy life I’m fine). So if you’re like me, know that’s valid and you’re not alone.

This post is abso-fucking-lutely not meant as a flex of any kind.

I am sharing a view point that I desperately needed to see during my afore-mentioned career breakdown. That my success did not have to be about becoming wildly rich.

That it’s fine to want something different.

That it’s valid to not aspire to all the things marketers and biz coaches tell you that you should want.

I hope that if you resonate with what I’ve shared, this helps you feel seen and perhaps more energized to share your medicine with the world - success parameters be damned.